The dictionary defines union as “joining together”. Marriage is an union of two people who usually come from contrasting backgrounds. And when two people, who have their own character and ideas, are joined together, it takes united effort and earnestness. Because of the differences in thinking, a normal resistance at times happens. And when resistance happens, sometimes trouble sets in. Thus, in your effort to save the relationship it is important that you bear in mind that when you got married, you agreed to be one with your spouse.
Love and commitment are the bases that bond two people together in marriage. When there is true love between spouses, the union that marriage created, becomes stronger. It is this love that makes the marriage endure and enables it to tower above all trouble.
But as the years go by, the stresses of everyday life put a strain into the relationship even though the relationship was established on true commitment. And sometimes if the strain has been there for so long and neglected, these present bigger challenges to the relationship. And this makes it harder to save the relationship.
It takes more than love to uphold the strength of your relationship. It takes hard work and fortitude to be able to maintain it. But if you bear in mind that marriage is an union and your union was based on love and commitment, you become alert to the fact that marriage is something that should not be taken lightly. Keep this in mind and you can be sure that you will succeed in your desire to save the relationship. And it is best that you do not wait for the relationship to deteriorate, but keep this in mind everyday of your married life.
The challenges and temptations that your social arena brings, from your work to your friends, makes it harder to stay loyal to the vows that you made. Giving in to the temptations could result to an affair which could lead to divorce. Those who have developed a balance of closeness and independence in their marriage make the conversion much easier than those who are less secure. To save the relationship, make the extra effort to form a bond that will last forever by maintaining the spark that drew you together in the first place.
Be aware that your situation is not unique. Most couples suffer from many apparently hopeless differences and as the conflict increases, more trouble sets in. Do not acquiesce in to these pressures. On the other hand, do not just sit there and pray that the situation will improve without your intervention. Exert the effort to solve your differences with your spouse to put the marriage back to where it was before. This is the only way you can have a chance to save the relationship.
If there is something that you do not like in what your spouse does talk it over; and talk about it in a collected and objective way. Emotions have no place if you want to save the relationship. Do not let the trouble reach a point where you and your spouse get irked with each other so badly. The big troubles usually start with the small annoyances that are unattended. And no matter how busy your schedules are, make time to go through this exercise of talking over the situation with your spouse. And when you undertake the problem together, start with the premise that you are tackling issues in your marriage, an union that was founded on love and commitment. Only then will you boost your chances to save the relationship you value the most.
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