Are you afraid of commitment? Worried about the implications of small things in your life, worried about mistakes, worried you won’t be able to finish things? These are things that plague me, you, and everybody. We’re all afraid of commitment and what could go wrong. I myself was afraid for a long time to stay overnight at a friend’s place, just because it would be unsure of what I would be giving up at home.
Talking about commitment though, it’s a bit weird. I’m always reminded of a stupid phone commercial I used to see where a guy would meet his ex-girlfriend, she would then see how he got the phone network thing and say something like “Wow, you got over your fear of commitment, that’s so not like you…”. I always thought it was stupid, it was like women were the mature ones who pushed the commitment of marriage on men, but I’m getting off point. While marriage is something you probably don’t want to run into headfirst, everyday there are little commitments that we are afraid when we should be. These are what I’m going to be talking about.
If your fears of committing to something get the better of you, then you’re going to be missing out, missing experiences. I myself had to was afraid to take on three Summer courses, which is very difficult to do, but I had to in order to get to the classes to learn what I need for the Japan scholarship next year. If I hadn’t, I don’t think I’d have a chance to pass the test next year.
Another problem is that you’ll make mistakes from only pursuing things halfheartedly. I started shaving with a straight razor, but I bought everything at a discount because I didn’t want to commit to spending a lot of money. But the problem is now that I have to re buy most of my equipment, costing me more in the long run.
Being able to commit yourself to something when you’re not sure is sort of like a sink or swim thing, except you usually end up being able to swim. Likewise, if you are able force yourself into making commitments you’re not sure of, you’ll be able to live a more fuller life. It may be more difficult, but you’ll doing different and new things, ultimately learning and growing. I learned what I’m capable of by taking on the intense Summer load. I can trust myself to be able to deal with bigger and better things than I’m used to, because I have the experience to know how much I can take onto myself at once.
After dealing with my straight razor equipment, I learned my lesson: Do not let previous decisions influence your current choice. I had spent more money than I wanted to trying to get my straight razor setup and I had to replace the razor itself. Do I spend the money and buy another straight razor or give up? I decided that the money I had spent previously was a sunk cost, no matter what I choose the money was gone. Since I really wanted to shave with the razor, and I didn’t want to go back to being dependent on buying normal cartridges, I decided to buy another razor. That turned out to be the best decision.
Think of it this way, you can live a shell of a life afraid of committing to anything, or you can go out and experience all the good things reserved for the brave. Next time you’re faced with a decision, and you’re not sure if you can handle it, or if you want to risk it, push yourself into committing to it. You’ll probably learn something about yourself, or at least get a good story to tell from it.
Alex Elkholy has had to learn to overcome a multitude of problems in his life, including having to learn social skills from scratch. Because of this, he has a unique insight into the way we act and behave, as well as views on how better to deal with situations. He currently writes on his website, Alex Elkholy.com.
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